is a common emotion that most of us experience from
time to time throughout our lives. We can feel depressed for
a day or two based on our circumstances, something we ate/drank,
our hormones, or the lack of connections with family, friends
or co-workers. But it becomes a concern when it lasts longer
than a couple days and becomes debilitating. Sometimes depression
cycles in and out over weeks, months or throughout the year.
Depression is different than sadness. Sadness is something
we feel when we lose something: through divorce or death,
the loss of a job, physical abilities through aging or illness
or a car crash, a child going off to college. With sadness
comes crying and a feeling of being “blue” or
heaviness. Depression is different, in that depression causes
us to attack ourselves in a hurtful and hateful manner. It
feels futile in ever being able to feel any different. “I
have always felt this way about me or my life and I always
will”. Depression can manifest itself in a number of
ways. Here is a list of ways depression can show itself. You
might identify with several of these, if you are depressed:.
feeling of hopelessness
of suicide or not wanting to “be here” anymore
feelings of self hate, critical thoughts about yourself
from people, particularly friends or family
with sleeping too much or inability to get to sleep or stay
too much, lack of appetite, or self starving
“stuck” or lacking motivation
to get daily living routines done due to lack of motivation
(alcohol, drugs, food, porn, shopping, working)
can be painful and debilitating. Causes of depression are
numerous. It can be from stuffing emotions and feeling like
there isn’t anyone “safe” or trustworthy
to talk to about your “stuff”. You may feel embarrassed,
shameful or like no one would understand what you are feeling.
By pushing down your emotions, they don’t go away, they
are still there, just not being addressed and continue to
can occur from a cycle of negative self talk that gets stored
in the emotional part of our brains. This is the limbic area
of the brain called the amygdala. These bits of self criticism,
self attacking words and feelings, feelings of being unworthy
or unlovable gets stored there and it becomes recorded on
a cellular level.
experience depression because they inherited it and they have
more proclivities to experience it in their lives. This may
be in conjunction with a chemical imbalance. Chemical imbalances
can be helped through medication, herbs, acupuncture, massage
therapy and exercise.
experience postpartum depression. This is a feeling of depression
soon after giving birth. It is accompanied by feelings of
despair, feeling stuck in a situation you can’t get
out of, anger towards yourself or the baby, feeling overwhelmed
and inadequate as a parent, or wanting to harm yourself or
your baby. This is a chemical or hormonal imbalance and should
be addressed with your doctor immediately.
get so busy taking care of other people’s wants and
needs, whether they be children, spouses, parents, friends
or bosses, there isn’t much time to take care of yourself.
This is another cause for depression. You become depleted
emotionally and mentally.
are part of the loop of depression. Addictions can cause changes
in your brain chemistry as a stimulant or depressant. They
also mask your ability to really discover and work through
what is really going on.
If you are feeling depressed give me a call at 303-514-4732.
I can help you work through these painful issues.
I invite you to call me at 303-514-4732 for a free consultation.